I don’t have kids
So honestly I don’t know what you expect me, to write, that is insightful or entertaining about having kids. However, I was a kid and can borrow from other people’s knowledge. Nevertheless, feel free to reach for a more appealing post.
However, I believe I can tell was is wrong and what should be done that to the stellar inspiration of my parents.
Unfortunately in Nigeria, I have been exposed to children being mistreated at the highest levels (slavery, prostitution, physical mutilation, child labor and abuse). Parents beating their “unresponsive children”, children attached to a leash so they don’t wonder to far, are just the tip of the iceberg.
Some of there traits are caused by our ever “progressing” environment; With its capitalist model built on self-interest and consumption. As for me, I don’t know about you but if a woman can’t confidently breastfeed anywhere she is, we have retrogressed and have problems.
Back to childrearing, I once lessoned to a podcast where the individuals approach was similar to how he raised dogs. It seems like such a repulsive notion at the time, but the way some people love and treat their dogs there might be some merit to it.
This particular individual is an acclaimed dog trainer so he used rewards and punishment to enforce behaviour. He also had scheduled playtime, walks and grooming period. But most importantly the kids and understand the intensity of a situation with a simple command.
For instance if him and his kids are going someone and one of them throughs a tantrum, he is liable to stop the car and inform his children of two options: either they take “playtime” now on the side of the rode or they behave go for the event and take “playtime” later.”
I recall him confessing that it was a process but the rewards were immense because your children understand time better (next piece on Time), you have a strong good relationship with them, you help them form good habits, they get fresh air and exercise.
However, he added that kids are not dogs. They have a more advanced mind of their own, so similar to dogs, they can see reason when explained; so explain actions as often as possible.
Finally, let them maintain their childish innocent, courage, wonder and curiosity because that is what we, adults, need to learn from them.